I heard somewhere a long time ago that if we live long enough we will experience tax audit, divorce, and death. I have been through 2 tax audits, one divorce, and now… the looming of death.
Last Monday, I got a call to say that my Dad vomited blood and was rushed to the ICU. It’s the kind of call that I have dreaded receiving. My mother held him with one arm while reaching for the phone and dialing 911 with the other. She came home to clean up the blood while the doctors stabilized my Dad. I am happy to say that my Dad is home after 5 days and awaits the news of his liver.
The challenge here for us is to determine the course forward. If it turns out that he has cancer in his liver, do we fight and take all actions to prolong the inevitable? Or, do we gently accept that the end is near for my Dad, and that it is time to live fully with the few days that we have left? Love took on a new shade, a new meaning, and new level of intimacy.
On a different note, a couple contacted me asking for help, because the wife is awakening and is called from deep within her a desire to reclaim her sexuality, her freedom, and her unexplored power. She threatens divorce and separation. This is shaking their whole foundation and threw them into turmoil and fears.
It is hard for both sides to believe that this is the beginning of greater intimacy, truth, and more passion. But it can be guided to achieve such results. By themselves, with traditional therapy and counseling, in the long run they could be successful in saving their marriage. To do so she would have to suppress her desire. But deep down inside she still feels a longing for something deep within, and will hide her resentment to herself and her man for not allowing her to follow her calling.
Love in this case requires overcoming one’s own fear and insecurity for the sake of what we all long for…. UNCONDITIONAL love.
Speaking of unconditional love… Keith and I have also been on our journey toward more truths and intimacy. There is so much to say about this journey, in future publishing. Suffice to say for now, love does not stand still. Love requires us to keep stretching into our own truths and lean in with the other partner even though we are scared, insecure, and hopelessly attached. I will unwind our love story in future writings….
Meanwhile, I have a question I want to ask you: Are you dating and Loving like a Peasant. You might enjoy this quiz.