Sandra is troubled.
“The miscommunication between us is the worst! Getting him to hear and understand me. He gets very sensitive to stuff that I say and do sometime. Most of the time, I am not sure how I am going to be perceived so I feel like I am walking on eggshells. I want so much to be heard by him AND really hear and understand what he means when he talks. I think he feels like he is walking on eggshell with me too.” “I think we both long for deeper communication and easier understanding of each other.”
For Gail it is slightly different…
“I am afraid to be completely honest with my new man. I am so trained from being with my ex-husband to censor my words and reaction so not to upset him. I am doing the same thing with my new man. I am having to learn to trust and relax into this relationship. But how far can I go? What if I am too much or say the wrong thing? I don’t even know what is going to push his buttons. Sometime I think I am afraid of deeper communication with him (or with most people when I think about it.)”