Avoid Divorce-Save Your Marriage!
This is for all you tired moms, who wake up one day and realize that you’re dead and numb in your marriage.
You have been doing the chores, giving it your all, but you have no more passion left. You dream of leaving. The thoughts of dating again; breaking up your family, and the substantial cost of divorce gives you the willies. So instead, you put on a happy face, drink another glass of wine or eat more cake to numb or drown out the voice inside that is screaming: “GET ME THE FUCK OUT OF HERE!” “IS THIS ALL THERE IS TO LIFE?!” “I HATE HIM!!!; I HATE THEM!!!”, “I HATE ME!!! and, last but not least “HELP ME!!!”
The Usual complaints I hear sound like this:
- I don’t feel it with him anymore.
- We haven’t been connecting for years.
- I want someone to LOVE!
- I want to be on the same track with him and enjoy doing things together.
- I want my passion back!
- We used to be so in love! Now we are just roommates.
- He doesn’t get me.
These voices usually aren’t heard unless there is a new love interest on the side, an affair (either of the mind or a cardinal sin of the flesh). And the affair is so rich, so luscious, so Technicolor while the marriage is monotonous, boring, and dull gray. Most people make the mistake of leaping into the affair, fantasizing that “THIS is it… THIS is the solution to my problem… If I can just have this new person, all my pain and deadness would be gone and once again I will live happily ever after.” Sad to say that is most often NOT the case.
The answer is simple: You both lost yourself in the mundaneness of everyday life AND the noble task of parenting. You dedicated your life to being a good mom, a good wife, a good income earner, a good housemate, etc… After ten, twenty, or thirty years of this, you had an epiphany: “Hey I am NOT HAPPYYYYYYY!” You have lost yourself, your passion, your motivation. Hell, you have even lost your sex drive! (For some of us, the reverse is true. Your sex drive kicks into full gear. You have to try to suppress that or act it out in the least healthy way… by having an affair.)
All you have left is PRETENTION.
- You pretend to be happy.
- You pretend to like: your job, your house, your neighbors, your kids, your spouse, even yourself.
- You pretend that everything is good enough, but nothing is.
- You pretend to have a good life on FB and Instagram, BUT, inside you are dying.
Physically you get fatter and fatter. You are haggard. You let yourself go. You avoid all mirrors whenever possible, and you hate having your picture taken. The truth is too ugly to bear. You stopped talking to each other about 15 years ago. When you do talk, it’s about the children, the weather, the parent meeting, or the chores at hand. You run more carpools and bake more cookies to avoid feeling your pain. You seethe with resentment. Whatever he does, it’s too little, too late, and always wrong! It seems so obvious to you that at this point you have no choice but to divorce. But that’s not true!!! Trust me… divorce is not the answer.
I know this. Because if I knew then what I know now, I probably would not have divorced. And I have been able to save ALL of my clients’ marriages when they asked for my help. It doesn’t have to be a long and drawn out 2-3 years of therapy with little to no progress. Failing marriages have become a UNIVERSAL HUMAN problem, an epidemic. It NEVER is because you didn’t do enough.
If you are on the brink of divorcing…
- Yet there is at least 5% of you wondering or hoping that there is an EASY way to save this;
- Or you want to avoid the pain and confusion to your children;
- And you want to avoid feeling misplaced shame and disappointment to your family;
- Finally you want to avoid the excruciating cost of breaking up your marriage,
I sincerely invite you to my Hot Life Hot Love 2-day Live Event. You owe it to yourself and your kids. You don’t have time to waste. Your future is at stake. Give me one weekend to help you before you sign the divorce papers.
Start your journey back: Hot Life Hot Love 2-day Live Event
See you there! Register now before you get stuck in your hole and do something that will wreck your life.