Magic, Miracles, and Mosquitoes in the Amazon, Oh My!

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Magic, Miracles, and Mosquitoes in the Amazon – Oh My!

Iquitos-MapIs visiting the Amazon and going to Machu Picchu on your bucket list?  I highly recommend that you bump it up and go sooner than later. You need stamina for this kind of trip.  And it’s too good to wait. 

I had the great honor and blessing to spend 15 days in The Amazon jungle, living on site with the shaman and his family, alongside 7 other American friends as we seek out the wisdom and healing of the Ayahuasca medicine.  Afterward we spent 6 days touring around Cuzco, the neighboring cities, and finally making it to Machu Picchu.

 

 

MachuPichuIt was an incredible trip in so many ways.  It has been a few weeks since I got back and I am still struggling for words to describe and capture the full extent of the journey.  Partly because all the pieces are still coming together.  Perhaps that is one of the many messages that I am receiving:  Life and her lessons continue to show themselves to me, long after the event is over.  My job is to look, listen, and take in.  

I will break the highlights into different links, so that you can click on to whatever topic that interest you the most.  I have some beautiful pictures of the trip; the Ayahuasca process and her impact on us; and what 3 things I learned from The Amazon that might help you with your business and love life.  

 

As always I look forward to hearing your reactions and comments.  

Please leave me a note below and share what calls to you from the Amazon or the Ayahuasca Experience.

 

Now, That’s HOT!

 

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Mai

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Are You Tired of Dating Your Cat?

Tired of Dating Your Cat?

Hey, Ho!

Here we are in Valentine’s Day month, which may cause a twang in your heart to those of you who are divorced or about to be single. And so I thought it would be perfect timing for me to branch out as an advice columnist for the love-sick and Ready-for-Love peeps. Here, is a sneak preview of one of my first columns. Please send me your questions so that I may be of service to you!

Dear M:

I’m a 50-something single woman and I’ve given up on dating. I feel like I can’t compete with the beautiful young yoginis and cosmetically enhanced perfect-looking women. But I’m lovesick and wanting to find a wonderful life partner. What do you suggest I do to boost my confidence? I’m tired of just having a relationship with my cat.

Thank you,

Misfit Cat Lady

Dear Misfit:

First of all, you need to stop feeling sorry for yourself and calling yourself a “Misfit Cat Lady” (no matter how clever that title is). You are not! How you see yourself will become a reality. Let’s call you “Ready for Love” instead.

Second, reading your letter reminded me of a poem that I read a long time ago when I was in 8th grade. It was the first piece of advice from life that I got and took to heart. Perhaps you have heard of it, Desiderata by Max Ehrmann: “..If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain and bitter, for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.”

In your case, there will always be some yogini younger, cuter, and sexier or someone with bigger hair, and more expensive boobs than yours. And I bet you that they are probably feeling the same insecurities that you feel are unique to you. So buckle up, divorce your cat, get out and start playing in the world!

My guess is you probably don’t feel you are worthy of the love and adoration that you deserve — and those feelings probably existed long before in your life. In your trials and tribulations, you may have forgotten how loved you truly are and how to treat yourself with love and respect. You might even forgotten how truly sexy you are. And you constantly judge yourself for not being enough or doing it right.

Let’s turn this around, shall we?

Start with the inside:

Your inner voices need to be witnessed and loved. They are crying out for you to listen to their pain so that they can heal.  Unfortunately, most of the time, you ignore, deny, or suppress them because these voices seem so pathetic to you. But all that ever does is make you feel worse about yourself.

Take out your favorite journal, and capture these voices.  “Today I am in touch with….” (fill in the blank. Write out all of your sad and “whining” voice has to say, then finish it off with “I am grateful to be in touch with these feelings.”

I promise,  you will experience an amazing shift inside. If you are brave, get a partner and share your writing, let them witness you. All they have to do is read your writing and respond with “I see you.” This simple act of daily writing and witnessing will start to melt away decades of shame and loneliness and will allow you to see yourself as is, and develop compassion for yourself. From there, unconditional love will blossom. Once that happens, you will start to attract different people into your life who have the capacity to have unconditional love for you. That’s what you want, isn’t it? See how this works?

After the writing, do something that makes you feel pretty and sexy. Show some skin and feel your body’s movement. Focus on feeling good and move away from the comparison thoughts.

The truth is men love women at any age and in any shape. They especially love women who love themselves.

Love, Love, Love,

M

p.s. For more support, come to my next “Hot Life Hot Love” event. You will get to see me live and ask your questions. I promise, it will change your life!

I want to tell you a story:

Ann came to my Hot Life Hot Love event last year to learn how to let love in, so that she is loved, adored, and cherished. She cried and cried during the entire weekend because she was stuck in a 20-year marriage with an unresponsive husband. After the event, as she was driving  home and a guy drove fast behind her and convinced her to pull over. She finally pulled over and he said, “You are so beautiful. I want to give you my card in case you’d let me take you out for dinner.” She took it as a sign that she deserved better. Within three months she moved out, sold the house, and began to live her life.  Her husband completely turned around and apologized for how he has been asleep in their marriage. Now they’re reconnecting and dating again. They are building a new loving and romantic relationship. She told me she owes it all to my event!

Want some of this?  Reserve your seat now for the next Hot Life Hot Love – 2 Day Live Event!

 

 

 

 

 

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Reinventing Myself: Finding My Executive Coaching Voice

Reinventing Myself:  Finding My True Voice“Leaders MUST reinvent ourselves all the time.

In that reinventing period, it could feel like wandering around the desert, having lost your way, doubting yourself and your decision. And we must stick it through, so that something old inside us can die, and something new is reborn.”

Whooeee, it has been a long time since I wrote something on this blog.  I have been lost, wondering and wandering, busy reinventing myself.  Last year was a very pivotal year for me, in the sense that everything came together to invite me to give it all up and reinvent myself.

And so I did, with lots of fears and relatively little resistance.

I realized that as much as I LOVED the leadership coaching world, it was too limiting to me.  Because my definition of leadership is much more encompassing that what current executive coaches talk about, and what the corporate world wants to engage in, with me.  To me, leadership is about the whole being: mental, behavioral, SPIRITUAL, SEXUAL, emotional, social, and physical.  When coaching within an organization, it is BELIEVED that it is ONLY appropriate to talk about the mental state, address the behaviors, lightly touch on the emotional and social, maybe include a little spiritual and absolutely do not address the sexual being that we all are.

It came to a point where I could no longer be happy ignoring the most important power center, our sexual energy-power-and truth.  And to be honest, I was scared.  I was scared to really believe in myself and my own wisdom.  So to play it safe, I clamped down, I tried to be good and appropriate, and I pretended like I didn’t see deeper.

Anyway, I left the corporate coaching world and went off to create two new bodies of work: The Reinvention Circle, and Sex Lies and Consciousness.  The Reinvention Circle is a place for people like me: really talented but frustrated because I was not doing EXACTLY what I wanted to do and BE, and fearful because I was afraid if I veered off my current path, I would stop making money and will end up living on the street with my daughter.  Sex Lies and Consciousness started out as a BlogTalk Radio shows of real conversations about sex and relationships, and has become a life of its own.

Today, I am coming back to this cherished work: leadership & executive coaching and integrating all of my voices and my views of how leadership should be in the world.  This time I am not attached to how it should be or what will make me money.  Just going to do it and see how it will all turn out.

Where are you in your own path?  Is there something that is calling you to reinvent yourself and your leadership voice?  Please share…