Before You Divorce, READ THIS!

Avoid Divorce-Save Your Marriage!

This is for all you tired moms, who wake up one day and realize that you’re dead and numb in your marriage.

 You have been doing the chores, giving it your all, but you have no more passion left.  You dream of leaving. The thoughts of dating again; breaking up your family, and the substantial cost of divorce gives you the willies. So instead, you put on a happy face, drink another glass of wine or eat more cake to numb or drown out the voice inside that is screaming: “GET ME THE FUCK OUT OF HERE!” “IS THIS ALL THERE IS TO LIFE?!”  “I HATE HIM!!!;  I HATE THEM!!!”, “I HATE ME!!! and, last but not least “HELP ME!!!”

 

 

The Usual complaints I hear sound like this:

  •     I don’t feel it with him anymore.
  •     We haven’t been connecting for years.
  •     I want someone to LOVE!
  •     I want to be on the same track with him and enjoy doing things together.
  •     I want my passion back!
  •     We used to be so in love!  Now we are just roommates.
  •     He doesn’t get me.

 

 

These voices usually aren’t heard unless there is a new love interest on the side, an affair (either of the mind or a cardinal sin of the flesh).  And the affair is so rich, so luscious, so Technicolor while the marriage is monotonous, boring, and dull gray.  Most people make the mistake of leaping into the affair, fantasizing that “THIS is it… THIS is the solution to my problem… If I can just have this new person, all my pain and deadness would be gone and once again I will live happily ever after.”  Sad to say that is most often NOT the case.

 

What Happened?

You’ve become a Supermom!

The answer is simple: You both lost yourself in the mundaneness of everyday life AND the noble task of parenting. You dedicated your life to being a good mom, a good wife, a good income earner, a good housemate, etc… After ten, twenty, or thirty years of this, you had an epiphany: “Hey I am NOT HAPPYYYYYYY!” You have lost yourself, your passion, your motivation. Hell, you have even lost your sex drive! (For some of us, the reverse is true. Your sex drive kicks into full gear. You have to try to suppress that or act it out in the least healthy way… by having an affair.)

 

All you have left is PRETENTION.

  • You pretend to be happy.
  • You pretend to like: your job, your house, your neighbors, your kids, your spouse, even yourself.
  • You pretend that everything is good enough, but nothing is.
  • You pretend to have a good life on FB and Instagram, BUT, inside you are dying.

 

Physically you get fatter and fatter. You are haggard. You let yourself go.  You avoid all mirrors whenever possible, and you hate having your picture taken. The truth is too ugly to bear.  You stopped talking to each other about 15 years ago. When you do talk, it’s about the children, the weather, the parent meeting, or the chores at hand. You run more carpools and bake more cookies to avoid feeling your pain.  You seethe with resentment.  Whatever he does, it’s too little, too late, and always wrong! It seems so obvious to you that at this point you have no choice but to divorce. But that’s not true!!! Trust me… divorce is not the answer.  

I know this.  Because if I knew then what I know now, I probably would not have divorced.  And I have been able to save ALL of my clients’ marriages when they asked for my help.  It doesn’t have to be a long and drawn out 2-3 years of therapy with little to no progress.  Failing marriages have become a UNIVERSAL HUMAN problem, an epidemic.  It NEVER is because you didn’t do enough.  

If you are on the brink of divorcing…

  • Yet there is at least 5% of you wondering or hoping that there is an EASY way to save this;
  • Or you want to avoid the pain and confusion to your children;
  • And you want to avoid feeling misplaced shame and disappointment to your family;
  • Finally you want to avoid the excruciating cost of breaking up your marriage,  

I sincerely invite you to my Hot Life Hot Love 2-day Live Event. You owe it to yourself and your kids. You don’t have time to waste. Your future is at stake. Give me one weekend to help you before you sign the divorce papers.

 

Start your journey back:  Hot Life Hot Love 2-day Live Event 

See you there!  Register now before you get stuck in your hole and do something that will wreck your life.

 

With Love,

Your PhD In Men

Looking back over the last decade, there is one thing that I am most grateful for, that once I figured it out, changed everything for me around relationships, love, and sex.  That one thing was my new found wisdom to understand men.

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 Let’s start at the beginning, way back in Vietnam 1965.  I grew up with a father who hit me for everything that my brother and I did. One time he struck me across my face for making a mistake on a math problem.  The slap was so hard, my baby tooth flew out of my mouth, slid across the floor and was never found again.  🙁

As a result of that upbringing, my first exposure to men was that they were scary and unpredictable. Their anger and rage could come down on me anytime.

Then as a teenager, my mother “bestowed” her wisdom about men on me. It went something like this:

 “There are two kinds of men, one group are rapists and the others are drunks.  So you should avoid men, boys, and guys at all cost.

 Well Hello!!! It’s no surprise that my dating life was zero and men were super freaky and scary to deal with when I was younger.  I was so scared, I only had sex with one man for the first 39 years of my life.  He became my husband because he was reliable, kind, and I knew he would not hit me.

 Not only did this faulty knowledge impact my dating life negatively, it also made me very afraid of men in the workplace.  Unconsciously I was always afraid of doing something wrong in a man’s eyes because he might hit me! And if I were having a good relationship with a man, I found myself uncomfortable around him because I truly believed I might  be forced to have sex with him.

  Eeecck! Accck!  Arggggg! Right?!!!

Fast forward to 10 years ago, I came to the realization that I wanted to learn about how relationships, love, sex, and men could be different than what I grew up with. I was done feeling disempowered around men. Through a series of well orchestrated events by my soul and the Universe, unbeknownst to my physical self, my marriage broke apart so that I could reclaim my understanding of myself and of men.  I went on a personal PhD program on love, sex, and relationship.  After 3 years and 33 men, I learned a ton of stuff about myself, AND about men: How they really work, and how us women can cultivate a much hotter (empowering) relationship with them.

 I recently partnered with my collaborator Lucas Roy Lehman to bring you what we both know, how to understand men.  Understanding Men

Trust me, watching a video series is way easier than the years I spent on my extensive self-guided quest.  It was a very scary and confusing time for me.  Often I wish I had someone to guide me.

And that’s why I’ve designed this video series for you.  I’ve made the first video in the series free for you to watch.

 So, are you ready to take this step towards understanding men?

Why this information is so important? Because you are constantly in relationship with men, from our father, to grandfather, brother, uncle, friends, boyfriends, husbands, sons, co-workers, teachers, and so on.  They are here to serve and love you, IF YOU KNOW HOW TO WORK WITH THEM.  If not these relationships will continue to confront, haunt, and hurt you.  When you are confused about men, you will always feel overwhelmed with life, alone, unwanted, unappreciated, disempowered, needy, and overly responsible.

So if you are ready to finally understand men, what makes them tick and how you can have a hotter relationship with them, get on this program. This knowledge in turn will bring you so much joy, delight, pleasure, ease, deliciousness, safety, and success. Here are a few ways to start:

  • Purchase the entire video series at my special subscribers price of $47(offer good through this Friday).
  • Subscribe to my weekly online Hot Love Hot Life Hangout.
  • Request a special invitation to my next 2-day live event in the Bay Area happening in March 2015 or Sweden in the late Spring 2015.

I look forward to being on this quest with you and giving you all that I have learned along the way.