After observing almost 50 people (myself included), over 200 days, working on creating their own miracles, I set out to compile my own list of reasons for why sometime miracles don’t happen. I asked my miracle maker team to get their input.
Here is what I/we got for you.
1. I didn’t ask.
Underneath that is a core belief that nothing is easy and miracles don’t exist. Somehow I opted out of the good things. Or I am too shy to ask, which ties to no. 7
2. I am attached to how it should look a certain way.
Therefore I can’t see the perfection and miracles that ARE happening. I doubt, I criticize, I rather be cynical instead of receiving and seeing.
3. I throw miracles away or I can’t receive or I shut my energetic door and block miracles from coming in.
With my cynicism, resentment, doubt, and just plain fear that it might work or it wouldn’t work, I resort to refusing to let any miracle in. The ability to receive is essential in miracle making process. Also I secretly think I have to give up one thing in order to get to that other thing that I want. The cost is too big for my little mind to grasp, so I refuse to make miracle. I find ways to sabotage myself.
4. I am so needy, there is no space for miracle.
Sometime I am so needy and fill with anger, resentment, doubt, prove it to me sense…I think I am open for miracles but I am actually not. I have no room for a miracle to occur.
5. I actually don’t want it.
I say I wanted it, but really underneath, I actually don’t want it. This one is tricky to see, because there are so much denial and/or blindness, I can’t see my own intention and motive most of the time.
6. I am too tired to take more in or I don’t have anymore capacity to make more miracles.
This one is a fun one, I have this one a lot. So many miracles are happening, that I get overwhelmed and exhausted living and enjoying the miracles. I have to pace myself. This one is so interesting to me, because I feel like my spirit self is so ready for this and so much more, yet my human body can only keep up with this much.
7. I don’t deserve it (in the back of my mind)
Again this is the opt-out plan. I don’t know why I opted out. And believe me I opted out a long time ago, I just didn’t know it. This comes from a very dark place of having a core belief that I am unworthy of love. This is human condition no. One: everybody somehow secretly believes that at the core we are not worthy of love. (Thanks Hans Kopp, one of our miracle practitioners for his contribution to this one)
8. I quit too soon
We spend our whole life practicing the same old behaviors, wondering why things are not working. But when we try a new thought, pattern, and behavior, we give it one day, or ten or 20-something days, and quit. We don’t trust. We get discouraged and lazy. So we quit too soon. (Thanks Claudia Castillo)
9. I Discount the miracle
“That’s not a miracle, it’s just life. Some good some bad.” I am oblivious. I wouldn’t know a miracle if it bit me in the butt. (Thanks Dawn Karner!)
10. I fall asleep on the process
This is very similar to item 8. but slightly different. Quitting too soon, at least is a conscious decision. “Hmmm I don’t trust this, it’s not working anyway, I quit.” But falling asleep is much more subtle and unconscious. It’s like a frog in a boiling pot of water. If you put the frog in hot water, it will jump out. But if you put it in cold water and slowly heat it up. It will die in there. Because it couldn’t tell the temperature change. It’s body adjusts to the temperature increase and lulls it into a false comfort. (This one is for all of the miracle makers who quietly fade away and dropped their partners, and not say anything. They didn’t even give themselves a fighting chance of success)
Ooh I got a few late entries that are equally important so i am going to add them here.
11. Blaming the process or the community (to sabotage or avoid my own work)
“I don’t like this group, they whine too much. All they do is complain and complain about their life. Geez is this group therapy? I am flooded with emails. And why doesn’t the facilitator stop this? I am frustrated with that. I am out.” Ha! joke on me, i missed the point and the whole work. But I am vindicated. (Thanks Roy)
12. It’s some kind of weakness to need miracles.
The macho, John Wayne syndrome: “I can do it myself ma’me. Thank you very much!”
What more can I say? None of these reasons are valid and should be honored. But we do these things everyday and cheat ourselves out of an easier more loving and successful life.
If you identify yourself with some of these reasons, and want to shift out of this stuck mode, join us in our next round of miracle making.
We start next Saturday March 9th, 2013 at 9am PT on the 40 Days/40 Miracles bridgeline. $49 buck, that is less than $2/day/miracle.