This is the day after the event where Keith n I took some of the team members on a tour of San Francisco. We were exhausted so we start the day at this most amazing chiropractor place to reset our body. Then we were greeted by Burma Love restaurant across the street that had exquisite lotus chips! Afterward we fueled up with more coffee n ice cream before we hit the sight seeing tour. I showed them my favorite angles of the City. Of course I had to show them something unique about SF, so we went to see the SF Amory. Not only did this place have a heroic past, it also is/was the film set for Kink.com I will leave it up to you to Google up what that means. It was “eye opening” to say the least.
But most interesting about this trip was the ending of the day.
Our car were broken into n a few of us lost valuable stuff: Keith suffered a $1000 car damage, Adam got his luggage stolen including his laptop, that totaled up to $10k, and Annika lost her day pack that totaled up to $500.
It was amazing to watch each one of us process our losses. The coolest gift from the Universe came when I drove us home. I felt compelled to take a pit stop on Treasure Island.
We pulled over to look at the magnificent view of SF at night and there were three raccoons foraging right at our feet. I immediately Googled up what raccoon means as the spirit animal that just showed up on our path. And this is what it said.
And so my dear friends…wherever you are, who knows what’s good and what’s bad. But I do know that we are always guided and loved by the Universe. And there are lessons a plenty to help us release our attachments and let love in; however that love shows up. And frankly that is what HOT LIFE HOT LOVE is all about.
Sexcapade in the City…Part One Smokin’ HOT Show – No Prudes Allowed
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It’s 12:19pm, and my sweetheart asked from the kitchen, “Are you interested in a soft-boiled egg [for breakfast]?”
I am cranking away on my laptop with a million thoughts going on. I am frozen at the question. It feels like too much to have to answer that. I have to decide… “Do I want to eat?” “Do I want to eat a soft-boiled egg?” then becomes “Do I want to make a healthy smoothie instead?” “Do I want to quit writing to feed myself?”
I read an article recently called “Why Steve Jobs only wears jeans and a black T-shirt”. They talked about Decision-Making Fatigue. Yup, it is a real term, a real condition. When we have to make so many decisions in a day, we can experience fatigue — where it actually stops us from making good decisions. It makes me think of divorced moms who are dating again while building a business and raising children. WE (I am in this demographic) are bombarded with decisions to make in a day, and the more successful we are, the more complex decisions we have to make.
I see a very common mistake that my clients make due to this decision-making fatigue condition. They ALWAYS put love last, behind building their business and taking care of their children. The mindset is automatic: “I don’t have time for that” or “I don’t need that right now.”
This leaves them depleted and angry. They don’t know why they are angry. Sometimes they don’t even know that they are pissed off. They just get frustrated at random things. It’s because they are not making good decisions. They are making decisions to cope with life instead of making decisions to build a hot life, to have life be yummy and fun. They are just coping. In their coping mechanism, they unknowingly push love and support away.
Back to my kitchen:
After a full minute of “Duh… I don’t know,” I said to him, “Yes please. And I don’t like it runny.”
The next thing I know, I was able to finish this article while two soft boiled eggs, half a grapefruit, and a piece of toast were served up to me.
YAY!!! I am fed and off to the next thing on my long list of to-do’s. My sweetheart felt like my hero.
My wish for you in 2016 is that you make yummy decisions that involve letting love in, that you don’t have to wear the same black t-shirt and jeans everyday in order to make good decisions, and that you have a hot man in the kitchen making you breakfast whether you recognize you need it or not. International Speaker and Master Coach, Mai Vu works with women entrepreneurs who are divorced & dating again. She helps you build a hot business while attracting your hot love, so you can live your hot life. Mai has a successful six-figure coaching business, serving over 1000 women worldwide for the past 20 years. Look for Mai’s upcoming book due to be released in February on Amazon: To Be Loved, Adored, and Cherished – The Divorced Mom’s Guide to Dating. You can find Mai at
She is 57 years old and has been in technology for 40 years. She has two children who are almost adults and got divorced after being married to an alcoholic for 20 years. She says, “I buried myself for the last 10 years, barely thinking I might want a companion. I’ve been divorced for over 5 years now and I am not sure that I can make a good decision regarding a man. I have a lot of pain still.”
When I saw JoEllen on Google Hangouts for the first time I was blown away, she is beautiful! Before this I imagined her as old, dumpy and raggedy from her tone of voice and the way she talked about herself. You see, the biggest thing that hangs over JoEllen’s mind and drains her of her vitality is the GUILT over leaving her marriage. Actually, it’s a GUILT-ping pong battle in her head between staying too long and not having protecting her children better over leaving him behind and breaking the marriage. It has been 5 years and she still wonders if there was one more thing she could or should have done.
During our recent 1-on-1 coaching session, JoEllen was describing her marriage and it hit me like a Mac truck, she did not have a marriage. A marriage implies two people care for each other, doing their best to give into the relationship, to nurture, to love and to hold each other. What she had was a prison sentence and through a lot of tenacity, she escaped!
That distinction was fascinating to both her and I. She was unconsciously calling what she had “a marriage” instead of seeing it for what it was: a prison term. She was held captive, abused, and neglected for twenty years. Interesting how this change in perspective busted up the guilt and shame that she was carrying in her head. Her old reference to her “marriage” really confused her when looking forward to having a new relationship with a man. Who would want another marriage or relationship if that is what you end up with, an indefinite prison term?!
JoEllen’s latest homework in the Loving Your 3P’s VIP program is to create a vision board of the kind of man and quality of relationship she wants in her life. She recently said to me, “I remember being 12 years old, having all the posters of teenage idols on my wall, dreaming of my future when my mother made me take them all down saying, ‘Stop dreaming about such things’. Now you, Mai are making me put them back up!” All I can say back to JoEllen is, “Honey, I am helping you get on your way to HOT LOVE!”
JoEllen’s story is one of many of my client’s journeys toward cultivating hot love in their lives. HOT LOVE starts with reclaiming our beauty and vitality, letting go of our guilt and should of’s, and then redefining what kind of man and relationship they we want in their lives.
Do you know anyone who is confused about their relationship, thinking they have or had a marriage but really they don’t or didn’t? If so, send them to me! We are HOT LOVE bound in 2014. We will be doing everything it takes to make love HOT. Let me help them make some miracles in their life or help them overcome resistance to change and be well on their way to having the HOT LOVE that they secretly hunger for.
I’ve just returned from Sweden where I successfully introduced a new group of women to my Loving Your 3P’s program and, even more exciting, debuted my newest couples program, Hot Love: How to Increase the Heat in Your Relationship. You can see pictures of this lovely country and of my two events in the video below.
Creating an evening to show my growing Sweden community how to reignite and bring back the confidence, deep intimacy, spice, fun and heat of their current love relationship has been my constant dream and craving for the last five years.
I had 5 couples in the room who ranged from young newlyweds, to married with young kids, to divorced moms who are in a new budding relationship, to a couple who are intimately dating with no expectation on each other. It was super fun to see how Hot Love increased the heat, intimacy and connection for all of them. At the end of the night, the women were princesses and priestesses and the men were kings and heroes. YUM!
I am now recuperating and dreaming up how and when to bring this second program to California, New York, Canada, and anywhere else that the Universe wants me to bring this to. Are you interested? Wonderful! By clicking here you’ll be amongst the first to hear about the next phase of my Hot Love program, until then I’ll keep you nice and hot with some juicy tips to start cultivating Hot Love in your own life.